Spiritual Awakening After Narcissistic Abuse
Grace Being Did you know that narcissistic abuse can lead to spiritual awakening?
I know what you must be thinking, shocking right?! What is the connection between narcissistic abuse and spiritual awakening?
It’s difficult to believe that the strategic devastation of another person’s life could result in something so beautiful and liberating.
By no means am I saying that narcissistic abuse is acceptable. However, by learning from this experience, you can transform your pain and transcend it.
If you’re ready to embark on your healing journey through personalized guidance and support, I’m here to offer valuable insights and practical tips through my supportive online community and the group Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program. (If you prefer one-to-one sessions, I offer Narcissistic Abuse Counseling personalized sessions according to your needs and specific situation).
What does narcissistic abuse look like?
When you think about narcissistic abuse, it’s difficult to associate it with anything spiritual or of good benefit. For someone who is still stuck in that phase of emotional abuse and manipulation, it’s even more difficult to wrap their head around it.
Narcissistic abuse victims get lured into the relationship by manipulative techniques played by the narcissist like love bombing.
When the narcissist senses that their partner is emotionally attached, they start showing their true colors and engage in manipulative behavior like narcissist gaslighting to feed on narcissistic supply.
Symptoms of narcissistic abuse involve:
- broken self-esteem
- cognitive dissonance
- losing ability to trust in others
- physical health problems
- stress, anxiety and depression
- nightmares
- isolation
- trauma bonding
- difficulty making decisions
- loss of sense of self and self-worth
- physical, emotional, mental and spiritual exhaustion
- complex post traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD)
Emotional trauma from narcissistic abuse could last for years if left untreated. Victims find themselves in a state of confusion, craving closure, and struggling to understand what happened to them.
Who are the victims of narcissistic abuse?
Narcissists choose their victims wisely, and they target empaths and codependents for their kindness, nurturing characteristics and high level of empathy. These people are usually selfless and are always ready to please others and give as much as they can.
People with narcissistic personality disorder are like dementors, they feed on pain and unhappiness of others, and they suck the energy right out of you. Their ego is boosted by belittling others, leaving their victims feeling unworthy and unloved so they feel superior to them. The weaker their victims become, the more powerful they feel.
The narcissist usually don’t want their victims to leave them. They want to stay in power and get you to attend to their needs, unless you become an inconvenience to them, then that’s a different story. When a codependent leaves a narcissist, they start being nice again and love bomb their victims to keep them stuck in the relationship. This makes it extremely difficult for their victims to leave them for good.
Related article: How To Stop Being Codependent With A Narcissist
Healing from narcissistic abuse
Healing from narcissistic abuse takes a lot of time, patience and self-compassion.
The victims pass from different stages as they start processing what happened to them. It’s not easy to realize that the person you loved so dearly does not exist, and to accept that the person you adored caused you so much pain.
Initially, people start going through the grieving phase as they come to terms with the fact that their ideal lover was actually an illusion, a sociopathic imposter pretending to be their soul mate.
It’s almost the same as mourning the loss of a loved one, which could take months of suffering. Most often, people get stuck on the memories and the good times they had together. They crave their abuser like a drug, which is one of the signs of trauma bonding.
Victims of narcissistic abuse get blamed for everything, and they feel that they are not good enough no matter what they do. Learning about the psychology behind narcissistic personality disorder is an important step in your healing journey. It becomes easier to accept and understand what happened to you. You realize that what happened is not your fault and that you did not deserve any of that!
Narcissists’ behavior is actually a reflection of how they feel about themselves. Their fragile ego projects onto others because they cannot handle any self-imperfections. Knowing this will give you a sense of relief and will uplift you as you start re-discovering your positive qualities and skills.
The process of healing might seem a bit slow, and this journey requires a lot of patience combined with self-care, self-love and self-compassion.
So what does it mean to really love yourself? Accepting yourself with all your flaws, mistakes and imperfections is an act of self-love. It means that you love yourself unconditionally, which is the purest most authentic form of love.
Acceptance is key to start healing because the path of the least resistance removes suffering and allows you to find inner peace. Even if you are not aware of it, you are gracefully walking yourself to the path of liberation and spiritual awakening.
Related article: How To Heal From A Narcissistic Relationship.
What is Spiritual Awakening?
Spiritual awakening happens when you experience a shift in consciousness.
Effects of spiritual awakening involve:
- Sense of oneness
- Expansion of consciousness
- Increased self-awareness
- Increased sensitivity
- Curios about deep philosophical questions
- You stop filtering everything through your ego
- Detachment from your old self
A spiritually awakened person feels like they have woken up to the ultimate reality. They realize that they were perceiving the world through a dark filter, focusing on things which don’t really matter.
Practicing meditation plays an important part in your healing process. Using meditation to deal with anxiety and negative thoughts has been proved to be truly beneficial. It calms the mind and gives you access to inner knowledge and inner power.
Meditation teaches you how to observe your thoughts and you realize that you are not your thoughts. You are the observer of your thoughts, thus awareness itself. Practicing meditation can lead to spiritual awakening, an experience that changes your entire life.
With more clarity and access to your inner wisdom, you realize what a beautiful being you are. You feel empowered and reassured that you will never allow someone to take advantage of you like that again. You feel a sense of oneness and universal connection with all beings, and you realize that separation comes from ego which is just a fragment of who you are.
Thanks to the clairvoyance that a spiritual awakening brings with it, you start making better choices for your life and makes you feel that you are in harmony with the universe.
The connection between narcissistic abuse and spiritual awakening
Suffering and emotional pain can be purposeful in your life. When you realize that they’ve had enough of your life choices, you start doing the inner work and inner healing.
Being exposed to narcissistic abuse pushes you to start taking care of yourself and nourish yourself with self-love and care. You realize that no one can take better care of you than your own self. Slowly you start changing your ways to live a more balanced and joyful life.
The suffering and abuse push us to change no matter how difficult it might seem, and make us go inward to find ourselves again and find inner peace. The only way we can find peace is to go inward and even if we are not aware of this, we start doing it intuitively to free ourselves from the trauma and emotional pain tormenting our reality.
During their healing journey, people realize that they need to start taking better care of themselves to protect themselves from getting into similar situations and create a better lifestyle. Let’s have a look at the most common changes that people go through during their healing process and path of spiritual awakening.
Shifting from narcissistic abuse victim to spiritually awakened
Consistent self-care
Self-care is essential to start healing from narcissistic abuse. The more you practice self-care, the more you will start to enjoy the cultivated feeling of well-being. You start becoming more assertive and feeling less scared to communicate your needs or assert your boundaries.
Taking care of yourself requires taking care of your body, mind and spirit. This will raise your vibration and you stop making excuses that you are too busy to do what you enjoy doing. You learn how to give yourself what you need at the right time… whether it’s spending some time in nature, going for a run, taking some time for yourself in silence or taking a break from your busy routine.
Interested in working on self rather than fixing your ex or wondering what they’re up to
When you are in a relationship with a narcissist, you get stuck in a loop where you are constantly focused on how to fix the problem and make things better. You never think about what you need or why you are staying in that toxic relationship in the first place.
Focusing on what you need rather than trying to understand how to make your abuser happy is a sign that you are letting go of the need to control the situation. You finally stop worrying whether your life choices are going to make your ex angry or be of any inconvenience. This way you start honoring your own needs, desires and dreams which means that you are being true to yourself.
Moreover, you start caring less about what your ex might be up to, and realize that the same cycle of abuse will keep repeating itself with whomever they might get involved with. Instead, you start focusing on your future and exploring what brings you joy and fulfilment.
Realize that no amount of love or empathy can fix the narcissist
Most people who end up being victims to narcissists think that if they love them unconditionally, they will be able to heal them or change their personality. Unfortunately this is not true, and they end up harming themselves along the way trying to fix their abusers.
Most narcissists don’t even see the need to change. Those who do, still find it extremely difficult to change their behavior and personality traits due to the nature of the personality disorder itself. Even if you convince the narcissists to go to therapy, it is highly unlikely that you will see any improvement.
At some point, the victims make peace with this and realize that fixing them was only a fantasy. They accept the fact that the only person they can change is themselves, and they stop trying to control people. Instead, they turn inward and start working on the relationship with themselves to heal.
Letting go of people who drain your energy
Following a relationship with a narcissist, you realize how draining some people can be. As you become more aware of this, you start releasing what no longer serves you, and you become more selective with the kind of people you spend time with.
When you experience a spiritual awakening, you start vibrating at a higher frequency. Naturally, friends who are vibrating at a lower frequency will start draining you. You realize that suddenly they step out of your reality even if it seems like it happened for no obvious reason. It’s okay, let go of people who drain you and honor yourself by surrounding yourself with good energy and people who uplift you.
Learning the importance of self-boundaries and that what you allow will continue
Narcissistic people do not respect boundaries. They strategically manipulate you to get an ego boost from getting away with things and keep pushing your limits. Trying to assert boundaries with a narcissist is a complete waste of time, and people realize this after countless failed attempts.
Arguing with the narcissist is pointless. Eventually victims realize that by sticking around, they are indirectly telling them that they can do anything they want without facing any consequences. The only way to stop the abuse is to walk away and not tolerate it any more.
Perceiving the experience as a divine gift
It may sound odd to perceive your suffering and emotional trauma as a good thing. But in reality, that very experience drives most people to go inward and overcome false self-limiting beliefs and heal unresolved wounds which they were carrying from childhood.
As a result, they free themselves from the dysfunctional conditioning which was leading them to making unhealthy choices and getting involved into toxic relationships.
Once the unresolved childhood wounds are healed, you start operating from a place of love rather than a place of fear and self-doubt. Making better choices and aligning with your truth will help you live a healthier life and establish fulfilling relationships.
Transform beyond your psychology and live your best life
Once you move away from the emotional abuse and establish solid boundaries, you start understanding how a healthy relationship should work. You find yourself always working on being the best version of yourself, and embracing new beginnings and opportunities that come your way.
Of course, this does not mean that you don’t go through difficult times, all of us experience ups and downs in life. However, this kind of transformation empowers you to approach life challenges differently with a sense of knowingness that no matter what happens you will be okay.
Final reflections on narcissistic abuse and spiritual awakening
Spiritual awakening allows you to start seeing synchronicities and signs from the universe which you weren’t able to see before. By building up the courage live authentically, you find yourself living an incredibly fulfilling and peaceful life.
If you are finding it difficult to leave a toxic relationship, ask yourself why you are actually staying and face your biggest fears.
Go inward and reflect on why you allow others to treat you that way.
If you think that one day the narcissist will start appreciating your dedication and effort that you put into the relationship, you are going to be waiting for an infinite amount of time.
If you resonate with these words and you are ready to embark on a journey of self-discovery and liberation, I encourage you to take the next step.
Contact me for guidance to support your path toward authenticity, healing, and inner peace. Together, we can explore strategies on how to build resilience and empower you to break free from toxic relationships. Don’t wait for change that may never come—start your transformation today.
FAQs
The spiritual lesson of narcissistic abuse is often about reclaiming your power, setting boundaries, and learning self-love and self-worth. It invites you to deepen your understanding of your own needs, grow in resilience, and foster compassion for yourself and others.
To spiritually heal from narcissistic abuse, focus on self-care, self-reflection, and forgiveness. Seek support from spiritual practices such as meditation, journaling, and energy healing. Embrace personal growth, set healthy boundaries, and cultivate self-love. Surround yourself with positive influences and engage in spiritual counseling to aid in your healing journey.
