Can’t Find My Passion In Life… Sounds Familiar? The Do’s & Don’ts

“I can’t find my passion in life” is like the million dollar question that everyone is trying to find the answer to.

As a person who couldn’t find her passion for over a decade, I can say from first hand experience that it’s scary and frustrating. So what do you need to do to find your passion? Let’s have a look at the do’s and don’ts so you can have more clarity on why you can’t find your passion in life and how to find it.

The Don’ts – what’s blocking you from finding your passion

#1. Don’t try too hard

Finding your passion should be an exciting journey of self-discovery. When we try too hard to find our passion, we get so focused on finding it that we end up missing what’s right in front of our noses.

When you take a step back and stop trying to force things, you’ll know in your heart that you’ve found it. Now this doesn’t mean that you should you just sit down and do nothing until your passion reveals itself.

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#2. Don’t just wait around for your passion in life to reveal itself

You cannot really find your passion in life if you don’t do anything. How can you know if you like chocolate cake if you’ve never tried it? Moreover, how can you know if you prefer chocolate cake or vanilla if you don’t try both?

You life passion won’t suddenly just dawn to you. It requires experimentation and trying out new things to see what feels right for you and what doesn’t. Most people who cannot find their passion in life get paralyzed by fear. They get stuck as fear holds them back from getting out there and trying new things.

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#3. Don’t set expectations on your life passion

One of the biggest mistakes that people make when trying to find their passion is that they think that it should be something big or heroic. Finding your passion in life isn’t about saving the world or getting social validation.

It’s about you and what you enjoy doing. Perhaps you already have an idea of what you enjoy doing. Don’t shut down that inner voice that tells you to go bake a cake, or do gardening, or take nice photos with your lovely camera.

Give permission to yourself to spend time doing whatever you enjoy doing, no matter how small and insignificant it might seem, it doesn’t matter!

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#4. Don’t worry about what others think of your life passion

Being scared of what others think is one of the main reasons why people can’t find their passion in life. Thinking that others will judge them holds them back from being honest with themselves.

The truth is that people always have something to say. So might as well go for it and allow yourself to be happy. And those who are able to support you along the way, are the kind of people you want to surround yourself with.

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#5. Don’t give up on finding your passion in life

Life is meant to be full of experiences, good and bad. When you experience boredom, and mundane experiences, you’ll be more able to appreciate what sets your soul on fire. It’s okay if you try a lot of things which you didn’t like.

Remember that you’re always getting a bit closer as you know that it’s not that. When you find your passion, your heart will show you, but only if you let it. Some people know what their passion is and try to deny it because they either feel unworthy of it, or they feel like it’s not worthy enough to be a passion.

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The Do’s – what can help you find your passion in life

#1. Be curious

Take a different approach. Instead of making pressure on yourself as if your life depends on it, be curious about who you are, what you enjoy doing and life in general.

When you adapt a curious attitude towards what you enjoy doing, you remove the pressure that you’re putting on yourself. This makes it easier for your to have fun with the process and motivates you to try new things. Being curious gets you a step closer to figure out what your passion in life is.

#2. Discover & develop a skill you enjoy

Finding your passion in life doesn’t happen overnight. Even the most successful people who live their passion everyday had to work on developing their skills.

Your passion is probably something that comes naturally to you. But there’s always room for growth and improvement. So you can’t expect yourself to find your life passion and be excellent in it from day one.

Most importantly is that you choose a skill that feels right to you. Don’t focus on developing a skill to bring money into your life. That’s not the point. Money is something that can come in later as a result of doing something you are passionate about and good at. Keep it simple and just focus on developing a skill you enjoy.

#3. Get out of your comfort zone

The journey to find your passion in life requires you to get uncomfortable. Staying in your comfort zone holds you back from growing and discovering beautiful things about yourself. Sometimes we cannot find our passion in life because we cannot see how to make it possible. It seems to be unachievable so we deny our own passion.

To learn what you’re really capable of doing, you need to challenge yourself and push yourself to try new things. Most often we tend to underestimate our own capabilities. We set limitations on ourselves due to our limited ways of thinking.

Trust me, when you start challenging yourself, you’ll realize that you’re more capable than you ever imagined. And what always seemed to be unachievable for you, will start looking as a possible reality.

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#4. Ask your inner child

Our inner child never leaves us. Looking back at yourself as a child and remembering what you used to enjoy doing is a good indicator of what your passions are in life.

Whether you have personal memories, or whether these memories were passed on to you by your family members, pay attention to them.

When it came to my inner child, I had to dig a bit deeper as my passion and life purpose were revealed to me during my early teens. I had this feeling that I should be helping people. But I couldn’t see how to make it a thing, so I ignored it for more than a decade.

So if what you did as a young child doesn’t seem to click, check in with your teenage self and see what comes up.

#5. Seek guidance

You might have an idea of what your passion is in life and you might be denying it for various reasons. Or perhaps you’re still looking for that spark that sets your soul on fire.

Either way, seeking guidance through this journey of self-discovery will help you clear your roadblocks and direct you on your right path. An experienced mentor or coach can guide you and help you become aware of blind spots which you might not be seeing.

Becoming aware of your roadblocks can help you overcome them and make it easier for you to find your passion in life. For me, the biggest roadblock was not being able to see how to make it possible. Working with a coach to help me develop an abundance mindset made all the difference and helped me bring my passion and life purpose to life.

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Bonus tips & guidance on finding the best career path for you

If you’re still in doubt about which career path to follow, here are some tips and insights on how to figure out what you want to do with your life.

Don’t worry about making money. Money will come naturally when you figure out what excites you and what sets your soul on fire. 

Your BIGGEST goal should be figuring out what you want out of your life, what you truly enjoy doing, why you want to do it, and how you can add value or make an impact with your life. 

No matter how big or small, you can contribute to a better world, a better life, a better Earth. 

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